Many of us spend so much time, effort and money trying to the find the perfect ‘one’. In the process of finding the one, we forget about being the perfect one. By forgetting the ‘one’, we seem to attract people that do not serve our needs.

 

What’s worse we attract people that abuse us and manipulate us. Why do we do that? Our outer world reflects our inner world. If you are being ‘used and abused’, it is because that is what is happening internally. How you see and treat yourself, and the world is how other see and treat you.

 

All the answers you seek, and will ever seek, exist inside of you. It is not about creating yourself, and it’s about remembering the eternal truth.

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This process is designed to give you the tool to go within and to remember who is the real you! 

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Develop Self-love, Self-worth and Self-respect

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We often search for validation from external objects and approvals from external people. When we finally get the objects and/or approvals we eventually go back to the dysfunctional state we were in before.   We often search externally for something that is missing internally and hope to find it. This coaching program is about going on a journey within and connect with your true self.  Know who you are – without all the crap around you.

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Who are you?

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All of us know what we want, but why do you want it? Our hope is that our desires give us more love, happiness, money or opportunities. Unfortunately, these are side effects of knowing your why. How many people have the ‘one’, money, fame and are miserable? Know who you are, then you will know why you exist.

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Learn how to process Emotions

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Emotions are in important for growth and development. Tools such as Anger, fear, sadness, guilt and grief are all telling us something. Warning us of greater issues at hand. Very rarely are these tools warning us of external dangers. Once you learn how to process your emotion, you no longer have to learn the same lesson(s) again and again.

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Create boundaries

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We often take on behaviours, beliefs and emotions that are not ours. Have you ever spent time with a ‘negative person’ and left the conversation feeling and thinking quite negative? Our boundaries are what prevents that from happening. Creating boundaries not only to keep negativity out, but it also allows us to create space for our own self-beliefs, behaviours and actions.

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Forgiveness Therapy

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To attract someone new, you have to create space. We don't forgive for others; we forgive for ourselves. When we don’t forgive then we give permission to others to own us. They own our thoughts, emotions and actions. By forgiving we create emotional space for that ‘someone new’.

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Deal with the Fear of Abandonment  

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As children, it is important that we aren't abandoned, as we will not be able to survive. However, most of us are no longer children, and we can fend for ourselves. 

 

However, the fear of abandonment stops us from taking massive steps towards our dreams or even become the person we were meant to become. Many fears stem from this fear, e.g. as the fear of rejection, the need for approval, and, many and destructive behaviours stem from this fear!

 

Overcoming this fear is the biggest investment you will make towards yourself.

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Know Your Parts

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We all have different parts of ourselves, and this is normal. The problem occurs when one part of us wants to go north but the other wants to go east. Trying to attract someone with these parts are almost impossible.  Our parts are the reason why we have unfulfilled desires, also the reason why we sabotage our own self.

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A part of us could want to success and another part of us thinks of us as a failure or unworthy? This process identifies all the various parts we have and ensures they are not contradicting ourselves.

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Find and/or express your Life Purpose

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WE are all here for a purpose that is greater than life and that life purpose is Freedom. We are all here to express freedom in one form or another. So how do you express freedom in this life? What is freedom for you? And how does your expression of Freedom impact the world?  

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